We all want a life full of happiness. However, we can’t get it directly; it is a by-product of certain mix of attitude, behavior and support. Happiness is to enjoy what we have, rather than yearning for what others have.
As a parent the ultimate goal is to give our child a happy life. But, happiness is not something you can pass on to generations as a gift or legacy. At very early age, child starts perceiving things, how you handle them, what values you teach them etc. So the seeds of happiness are planted early in our children’s lives.
1. POSITIVE PARENTING: Positive parenting mainly focuses on strengthening our child emotionally, socially and mentally. We should use encouraging words with them, like ‘good! you are going well’, ‘well-done’ etc. These all are magical words. Children so groomed with positive attitude see the world filled with great opportunities. We should always try to keep the surrounding atmosphere filled with positive vibes.
2. STRONG BONDS: Studies have shown that families having strong connectivity with friends, relatives, schoolmates and between couples tend to be happy ones. Positive feedback from others will give love, affection and encouragement which leads to happiness. Social relations give us the feeling of security and build positivity. This way we are telling our child, that strong relations are assets for happy life.
3. PHYSICAL ACTIVITY: We all know health is wealth. So to keep our children healthy, we must encourage them to take part in out -door games. This will not only make them physically fit and healthy but also allow them to develop competence to tackles problems while maintaining a positive attitude. Healthy children are the happiest children.
4. OPEN COMMUNICATION WITH OUR CHILDREN: Give an ear to what your child wants to say. For example, the child may say about a friend of him “I don’t like him.” Don’t react to it. You could use soothing words making him feel you are interested in what he has to say instead of adding to his hurt or anger by reacting immediately. The child will feel you tried to understand him. It will enhance his confidence on you to share his emotions of love, anger or anxiety.
5. WHAT IS HIS PASSION: Observe your child and find out what he really loves to do. What is that one activity that engages him passionately? Encourage him to follow his interest or hobby. Passion will give them the edge to do something different from routine. Passion can be for music, reading, playing. Remember, the happiest persons are those who have made their passion their career.
6. SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH CHILDREN: Raising a happy child is responsibility. We should spend quality time with our child. We sometimes want to substitute this with fancy and pricy gifts or allowing them to watch cartoons or play video games. Instead, an hour spent with the children doing some activity together will instill better values.