Dealing with Child Bullying – Tips for Parents
Child bullying is a reality today, both for school going children as well as teens. As a parent it has become important to know if your child is being bullied and how to help the child face and overcome child bullying. If left un-supported and not guided properly, child can have a life long scar on his or her conscience as a result of bullying.
An act of bullying is defined as an aggressive act (can be physical, verbal or relational) with three characteristics:
- It is intentional
- It involves a power imbalance between an aggressor (individual or group) and a victim
- It is repetitive in nature and occurs over time.
Bullying is more prevalent in middle schools than in high school. Boys frequently bully using physical threats and actions, while girls are more likely to engage in verbal or relationship bullying.Roblox HackBigo Live Beans HackYUGIOH DUEL LINKS HACKPokemon Duel HackRoblox HackPixel Gun 3d HackGrowtopia HackClash Royale Hackmy cafe recipes stories hackMobile Legends HackMobile Strike Hack
How parents can know if teenager is being bullied?
It is difficult for parents to establish whether their teenager is being bullied or just have normal adolescent behavior. The key thing to look out for is sudden change in your child’s behavior. These might include:
- Unexplained bruising, cuts, scratches, sprains or torn clothing.
- Unwillingness to go to school or asking to be accompanies.
- Fearfulness, nervous rashes, acute anxiety and panic attacks.
- Withdrawal from regular family activities, lethargic, drop in grades and not wanting to participate in school activities.
- Complain often of headaches, stomachaches, or other physical problems.
- Not eat as much as normal.
How Parents can help their bullied teenager?
It is important that you stay calm and avoid over-reacting. Tell your child that you are confident about providing help and support and that you will do whatever is necessary to stop the bullying. This is a time to show unconditional love and acceptance. Praise your teenager for volunteering the information about the bullying because they have taken the most important step in solving the problem. It is important that they are given whatever time and support is necessary to express their pent-up feelings.
Sometimes parents ‘under-react’ when a young person tells of being bullied. They may not recognize the significance of the incident for their son/daughter, or the extent to which they have been distressed. Parents need to take bullying seriously, and take steps to support and protect young people, at the earliest possible opportunity.
The following are messages your child needs to hear from you for reassurance:
- Bullying can happen to anyone
- It is not your fault
- There is nothing wrong with you
- The bullying should not have happened, and you are not expected to put up with it
- You do not have to face this on your own
- We are going to sort this out
Advice for kids how to face child bullying:
Avoid the bully and use the buddy system. Make sure you have someone with you so that you’re not alone with the bully. Buddy up with a friend on the bus, in the hallways, or at recess, wherever the bully is.
- Hold the anger. It’s natural to get upset by the bully, but that’s what bullies thrive on. It makes them feel more powerful. Practice not reacting by crying or looking red or upset. It takes a lot of practice.
- Act brave, walk away, and ignore the bully. Firmly and clearly tell the bully to stop, and then walk away. Practice ways to ignore the hurtful remarks. By ignoring the bully, you’re showing that you don’t care. Eventually, the bully will probably get bored with trying to bother you.
- Tell an adult. Teachers, principals, parents, and lunchroom personnel at school can all help stop bullying.
- Talk about it. Talk to someone you trust, such as a guidance counselor, teacher, sibling, or friend. They may offer some helpful suggestions, and even if they can’t fix the situation, it may help you feel a little less alone.