Conversational Etiquette or Conversational Courtesies
Conversational Etiquette have become highly important in this age as every person, be a school student, a house wife, a professional, a politician or serviceman, has to present his views and listen to others at each gathering or meeting other people. With changing times, a person today needs to intermingle with more people in his life socially and professionally than our elder generation did. So, it is wise thing to hone up our conversational etiquette and improve our Conversational Courtesies. Let’s see where we might not be doing so well:
- Today we need to attend a lot of social functions – marriages, parent teachers meetings, club parties etc. At these social functions talk to people, circulate, and mix with different groups.
- These functions are great opportunities to make new friends. Introduce yourself even to strangers and talk a little about yourself.
- Give a little thought to what kind of people you might meet at a meeting – social or professional. Have some conversational topics up your sleeve so that you can start s conversation. Conversational triggers can be the current football match, the stock market or even the local traffic jam.
- Do not waste time in meetings. Move quickly from small talk to meaningful talk. Listen carefully to what your conversational companions are saying. You will get leads on what to talk to them about.
- Ask about the other person -their family, education, back ground etc, but not in a nosy way.
- No personal questions, like ‘What’s your religion/caste?’ It is a big No No.
- Do not ask about personal finances or assets. like ‘How much does your husband/your son earn?’ Your conversation should not be like a interview full of personal questions!
- Sound intelligent . Be well informed about current affairs.
- It is becoming common to meet couples at social events who are not married so don’t assume that couples you are talking to are always husband and wife.
- Participate in discussion. Don’t be a silent wall-flower.
- Do not over do it. Don’t be an unresponsive conversationalist. Allow others to speak.
Finally the most important Conversation Skills
- Never talk in your native language to a few people who may know it, when you are in the company of others who do not know it. It’s rude as it excludes the others from the conversation, and it makes them feel that you are talking that about them. If you have to speak in a language that the others don’t understand, do translate for them right away, for example, “We were just saying that we should be moving or else we’ll be late.’
We do hope these communication skills will help our readers in being involved in meaningful conversations.